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Now, let's start with..
How you talk to yourself.
Your self talk is more powerful than you might realize, a lot of people couldn't lose weight and remain themselves in the process, they would be someone else when they lose their weight so they don't.
What do I mean? If you have identified with being "fat" since you were a child, if you have referred to yourself as fat, if you say to yourself that you are fat, or that you are overweight and you have talked like that for a long time, then guess what?
Then you are fat, so if you lose the weight and get fit then who are you?
Identity statements like "I am fat" are binding you to the situation that you want to change as if it is who "you" are and it is not, you are not "a fat person" it is not who you are, you are CURRENTLY overweight but that can change over the next few weeks or months if you are willing and ready for it.
So my suggestion is that you don't make statements about yourself that keep you stuck but instead, say things about yourself that allow for the desired change to happen.
"I am currently overweight but I can change that", "I am a bit fat at the moment but I will be slim later on." You get the point.
So if you are asking, why is weight loss not working for me? then that could be one reason.
I am not joking when I say that some people consider themselves obese as part of their identity because they don't know any different, and they refer to themselves as being fat so they feel (without being consciously aware of it) that losing the weight is scary because then who would they be?
After all they ARE fat!.
So don't put yourself in that box and if you've already done so, now you know about this so get yourself out of it by thinking and speaking of yourself in a manner that allows you to change in the direction you desire.
how to set goals for weight loss to be successful.
Alright.. So how do you change your weight? How do you set your weight loss goals in a manner that gets you results?
This is a crucial point because if you set your goal incorrectly you could be wasting your time and unfortunately that is what most people who get on diets or fitness to burn fat, do.
That is one of the main reasons that a lot of people who are into weight loss have shelves of books about it. They are members of forums, weight watchers etc.
It's like a lifestyle for them to try to get fit. They lose weight, but gain it right back so they are on and of different diets hoping the next one will work but in the long run they are getting nowhere with weight loss. don't do that but rather, set goals that are successful. Here is how most people would go about it.
I want to lose 20 pounds in 1 month, as an exampleI, or I want to get fit in 1 month or two.
They set out to follow a program to make it happen and they might see some results, but later they gain the weight back again.
Because they were not specific enough with their goal. If you set your goals incorrectly then there can be problems like that.
Instead of saying "I want to lose 10 pounds" and have that as your goal.
You really should be specific about what it is that you want to achieve, and know just how it is going to be when you have achieved it and what you will weigh when you have it.
So your goal should be for example, I am going to weigh 75 kilo 3 months from now.
So you see the difference between I want to lose weight, and I want to weigh X amount of pounds in a 3 months.
If your goal is to weigh x amount of pounds and that is going to be your weight not only when you reach your goal but also from that point on, then you are never finished because it is a constant rather than an episode and that is the best approach to setting goals for weight loss .
You see, a lot of overweight people make sacrifices to lose some weight and when they see results they get happy about it and celebrate and eat and get fat again because they think that on some level they made it. Because they did, they lost the pounds they wanted to, so make sure that you don't fool yourself thinking that in a few weeks I will have lost the weight and then I can it the crap that got me fat again, that is unacceptable if your goal is to weigh 75 kilos forever.
So you see, that is how you create the weight changes that you desire and keep them!
How badly do you want it?
That leads to the next thing. How badly do you want to get to that weight?
If you really want to make it happen then you certainly can. A lot of people have gone from obese to slim, it is doable, but it requires changes and dedication, it requires discipline and some work. So it is important that you do this for yourself, for your own reasons, and that you feel and know that you are worthy of feeling good and looking good and you can make it your reality.
If you, on the other hand, feel that you don't even care, you just want to lose weight for other people's opinions or words then the motivation and drive will probably not be sufficient.
That is another reason a lot of people who are into weight loss but don't burn the fat, are unsuccessful. Because they want to have excuse to give people, well i have x amount of books, i tried this diet, and it doesn't work. Etc. Not all of them, of course, but some.
By the way, it can be more difficult for females to burn fat and that can also be a reason it is not working as well for some females as they would wish. If you are female and you have tried different diets without getting the results you want then you could checkout befinallyfit which is a system designed specifically for females. If you really want to get fit and lose some weight then you can certainly make it happen.
Before each meal you have, drink a glass of water because it will make you feel fuller so you eat less. You can also drink water during the meal.
And practice portion control. It is important that you keep track, at least to some extent on how often you eat. It is recommended to eat 3 – 5 times per day so do your best to not exede that. If you usually eat more then you should get used to eating 3-5 times per day and soon you will have no problem with it.
Some people have potato chips and other stuff to eat when they watch TV, sometimes they eat just for the sake of eating. If you do so then I suggest you do your best to avoid that. Stick to 5 meals max.
It is also important with sleep. Make sure you sleep up to 8 hours per night and it is good if you have a dark bedroom because in the dark you produce melatonin at night. And in the day time you will have more energy so you have better metabolism and need less energy from foods so it is easier to lose weight if you sleep well.
Do your best to avoid eating processed food, eat whole grain and homemade food as much as possible and drink lots of water. Protein rich food makes you feel full and you can go for longer periods without eating afterwards.
To summarize this article.
don't identify with being overweight but rather, konsider it a temporary condition that you can change. Don't talk about yourself as an overweight person but rather someone who is currently overweight but its gonna change.
Set goals correctly, be as specific as possible and consider your goal a process rather than a goal with an endpoint. Want your goal so much that you make it a reality. Sleep well, eat in moderation and drink water.
I hope that this article can help you reach your ideal weight. Good luck to you on your weightloss journey.